Maybe your marriage is one where you feel only slight stress on occasion while loving and raising your special needs child/children. If so, I’m thrilled for you! But that’s not me.

My husband and I, nearing our 26th anniversary, are also nearing our 22nd anniversary of adopting three kids from Russia, all with permanent, multiple, special needs stemming from fetal alcohol exposure—intellectual, emotional, behavioral, and physical—all invisible. Todd and I have lived in a state of nearly constant stress. If it isn’t one thing, it’s another. With all three. And the hardest for us has been the fact that hardly anyone understands what we’ve lived through because we all look, well, so NORMAL.

Determined not only to make our marriage work and thrive (I’ve suffered through my parents’ divorce and my own), Todd and I have been intentional about a few things I’d like to share with you, hoping these tips might help. Besides our #1 priority—prayer—here are three more things that have kept us glued.

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