I was 26 years old on that balmy summer evening in Indiana. Gathered with close college friends at a family cottage on Lake Maxinkuckee, we sat on the outside terrace under the moonlit onyx sky studded with stars as if God had emptied an immense bag of perfectly cut diamonds onto his black velvet jeweler’s fabric. We reminisced about college days and laughed about our midnight runs to Skyline Chili, just off campus at the University of Cincinnati. We were a wild and crazy bunch of Christians, in a wholesome sort of way, never lacking laughter.
Job’s friends sat with him on the ground for seven days and seven nights when they first encountered him in his troubles. “No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was.” (Job 2:13) The problems began when Job’s friends finally opened their mouths and started offering their perspectives on his suffering. Oh, if they had just kept their mouths closed and their hearts open, instead of the other way around, Job might not have experienced suffering upon suffering. Often, lack of human empathy is what drives us straight into the arms of God, our great Comforter. But God made us for relationship with each other too. The suffering should find fullness of comfort from direct relationship with God and in relationship with his people. God knows we need tangible touches of love. He knows we need ears to hear us, eyes to see us, arms to hold us. We need to hear love in someone’s voice, to see compassion in someone’s eyes, to feel comfort in someone’s embrace. This is what it means to care for one another, as God cares.